If you have an international surrounding there is a very high likelihood that one of your friends is married to a Bulgarian girl or at least has dated one. This isn’t because Bulgaria intentionally sends women to foreign countries to try and spread our genes. Although that’s not a bad idea, the actual reason is simple: Bulgarian girls are STUNNING! And I don’t mean to say that girls from other countries are not! It’s simply that we’ve got more beauty per square meter than Sahara has sand. In other words: if you are a guy coming to Bulgaria you will have a very hard time concentrating on anything else but the girls around.
So, what happens when you decide to date a Bulgarian girl? Simple? Hell, no! And just because I’m really cool I’ll give you some insights.
#1 The grey area has more than 50 shades of grey: Bulgarian “muffins”
Silicone in the lips and the breasts, make up, tight clothes, jewelery, colored hair, and a princess/prostitute behaviour. If you’re thinking of a gold digger, you are quite wrong. In Bulgaria we call them muffins (don’t ask). They may remind you of the western gold diggers but that is not exactly the case and you’d be seriously fooled if you perceive them like ones. Here are the few things you need to know about them:
- They are shockingly smart! I’m not talking about intelligence here, so pay attention! Bulgarian “muffins” may not know all the capitals, yet they can capture you in their net by the time you say your name.
- They’re good housewives. Unlike in the West, a home cooked meal is the king in Bulgaria and our local “muffins” can WOW you with their kitchen skills. Not to mention that most of them are nuts when it comes to cleaning. Best thing about them: they will look like Angelina Jolie on the red carpet while making sure the house shines.
- They are sensitive and vulnerable. Yet, Bulgarian “muffins” hide behind a perfectly performed “I don’t care” attitude. They’ll let you in their lives and hearts, but God forbid you break their trust. Women can be quite revengeful.
- You don’t want to cheat on a Bulgarian “muffin”. If you do, they’ll make your world miserable. Try and get astronaut training if that’s the plan.
- They’re addictive. I’m a woman and I can’t really tell you why this is, but I’ve seen the aftereffect over and over again. There’s something about Bulgarian “muffins” which makes them addictive and once you get your first dose you’re hooked for life!
If you’re a guy reading this you probably expect me to tell you that they are good in bed. Well, I wouldn’t know, right 😉
#2 Promises? We’ve heard those. Got something new?
Bulgarian girls are not the usual cry babies. They have been handling life by themselves for quite a while, so unless you are as strong as they are you might be seen as a liability, not an asset. We’re talking physical and emotional strength. You need to be able to carry shopping bags with the same wise and steady attitude you’ll use to calm her after a tough day at work.
And since Bulgarian girls are quite emotional as well, you need to be prepared for some serious fighting that includes tears, shouting, insults, and God knows what more. BUT! You should remain wise and calm as much as your testosterone allows, as she will not tolerate you being rude.
In reality (and I am saying this with a heavy heart) Bulgarian women generally stand by their partners even when insulted and treated poorly. Don’t let this fool you though – she might do it for all kinds of reasons which do not include love. Feeling sorry because she realizes no one else would stand you, could easily be one of those reasons. In my personal experience empathy doesn’t last forever, so if you’re rude you will be shown the door eventually.
#3 Man up: coffee is not a date!
Yeah, it’s the 21st century and everyone is busy… Blah, blah, blah. Coffee invitation is not a date. Neither is afterwork drinks. A date is a date and you know what it is – don’t be a pussy. Man up and take the girl to a real date!
If you are taking your lady somewhere fancy (which you should do), you need to behave as if you dance salsa. In other words – your only job is to lead while making sure she shines out. If you have a show off side, make sure you cover it well.
Be aware that for the past 20 years Bulgarian men have become quite annoying trying to constantly show off. There are girls that will easily write you off if you think you’re larger than life. The “muffins” or muffin-like girls will tolerate more of that, but all the rest of my sisters will probably think you are an idiot. I suggest being moderate to the maximum of your abilities. Test your waters first and see how much of a “golden boy” she can handle.
#4 Who pays the bill when going out with Bulgarian girls?
Here’s how it works around here: if you invite a girl, you pay the bill. That simple. She might offer to add something, but if you really want to be perceived as a man, you better not accept. If you are wondering whether she might feel intimidated because of that: don’t. Emancipation doesn’t exactly have the same meaning on the Balkans as it does in most Western countries.
For a Bulgarian girl things look like this: if I pay my part of the bill, that means we’re buddies. Do you really want a one way ticket to “friends zone”?
#5 Parents are the cool gang. Friends are, however, seriously judgemental.
I’m sure you’ve said or heard the “I don’t do parents” expression at least once. Well, if you’re dating a Bulgarian girl, forget that one. Meeting her parents won’t mean you’re about to propose. It will simply mean you’re meeting two grown-ups that will most likely love you more than your own mum and dad.
If you’re meeting her friends, however, that’s big! They are usually the ones that she will only introduce a serious relationship to. So, if this is about to happen: make sure you are your best self.
#6 Future plans: do or shut up.
Bulgarians are cynical by definition and have serious issues with trust. Or trust has issues with them – it’s really hard to tell which way this relationship goes. The bottom line is that the more you talk about future plans, the less she’ll trust you.
People here are used to hearing empty words and even serious commitments sound ridiculous. If you really want to impress a lady, the furthest period in time you are “allowed” to plan for is a week ahead. When you prove that you can actually execute your ideas several times in a row you can then (and only then) talk about the future.
#7 Forget about the 3 days or any other rule you might have in your suitcase.
If you liked her and had a good time: call her the day after. Even better – make sure she falls asleep knowing you want to see her again. Don’t forget that she probably doesn’t know about the traditions in your home country and if you try to apply them you can get her really confused.
#8 Take her home.
Now don’t get all excited! What I’m saying is: take her to her place when the date is over. You might think this is old-fashioned, but in Bulgaria it is still one of the things that will impress a woman and she’ll see you differently.
Not driving? No problem: taxis are not at all expensive here. Grab one, take her to her place, and then go home. You’ll definitely be given extra credit!
Just be aware that driving after her to make sure she’s home safe (if she came with a car) is creepy on a whole new level!
48 replies on “8 simple rules for dating Bulgarian girls”
I knw the woman I am looking for. I know her name. It is a VERY weird situation, but it is what it is.
She is precious beyond belief. She is not normal. She is not average. She is not incredibly beautiful. But, she is for me.
Hey David, we are delighted you’ve found the one for you, and we wish you tons of happiness!!! 🙂
Really? You’re shitting me. A man knows how to treat a lady. Your Bulgarian lady will be treasured.
Hola buenas tardes.SOy Pedro.Estoy teniendo relacion con un chica Bulgara.Ella tiene 41 y yo 45.¿Cuando se sabe que una chica bulgara esta interesada en ti?.Ella esta de viaje,yo le escribo mensajes.Ella me responde.Ella me manda fotos de ella y de su familia,lo cual me gusta..¿Que me envie fotos de su familia implica una confianza grande en mi persona?
Hi Pedro, thank you for your comment. The mere fact a woman is spending time talking to someone, responding to messages, and sending photos, is a clear indicator she is interested. Hope that helps.
Very much happy to know all this things I’m from Nigeria Africa planning on coming over to Bulgaria very soon
I loved reading the rules, and all very true. I wish I had known them 15 years ago, it might have made things much easier, but I still managed to get along somehow. I was always a shy and awkward guy around girls, but somehow by God’s grace, 15 years ago I stumbled into an incredible relationship with a gorgeous and devoted Bulgarian woman. We have been happily married for 13 years and have two wonderful children together. I can personally vouch for Rule #7. When we first met, she gave me her number. I was trying to think of all the rules and was going to wait 3 days before I called. Then something inside me said “these games and rules are too much of a hassle, just call her right now, be yourself and whatever happens happens.” She later told me that she was so impressed and happy that I called her the very next day. When we were first dating, I always scored points with her anytime I didn’t follow any of those “dating rules” or “women’s lib” nonsense. She is extraordinarily passionate, which has caused some conflict between us in the past, but we got used to each other’s personality types over time. Our relationship has just gotten even more passionate over the years and I feel the best is yet to come. I knew nothing about Bulgaria before I met her, and wow, it’s been a wild ride. My life with her has never been boring.
My mother sent me this link and it made my day… These (except for the muffin part) are traits that my boyfriend has been coping with for a two years period and it’s REALLY fundamental to take part of the family time between him and my parents. My mother and father absolutely love him (if they didn’t they wouldn’t have let me move to England with him!) You have to be really patient with a Bulgarian woman because she’s got enough passion and drive to fuel a country. When she’s right, she’s right. And when she’s wrong, she’s STILL right!
Hi Stefani 🙂 I am really glad to know we’ve managed to describe the Bulgarian woman for what she really is and you can relate. Wishing you lots of joy and a wonderful, loving relationship!
I met a Bulgarian lady on an passenger train in the USA. We became fast friends and had a really great time enjoying each others company. I mean, she REALLY impressed me. Her confidence, her education, her personality, her beauty, I can go on. I hid my attraction to her because she was married.
We have been friends for 8 years now. During this time, I have been to visit her twice. This year on New Year’s Eve, she told me that she had divorced, We have been staying in touch and I have been showing her passionate interest. I know she’s not ready to jump right in to a relationship, but I also know she’s not opposed to us talking.
I really want to be the man in her life, but I also know that this won’t be easy for me. I want to earn her heart, Nina. Any advice?
Hi Jeff and thank you for your comment! To be honest this is one of the most romantic real life thing I have read in a while. I won’t try and guess what the lady wants, because let’s face it – women are unpredictable. For Bulgarians, multiply this statement by a 1000 🙂 I have, however, personally been a pro-honesty person my entire life, so I’d say: go ahead and tell her. Make it clear to her that you’d like to be the man in her life (directly, by very clear statements) and if you don’t see a confused or a disappointed facial expression just kiss her. Be careful on the expression but in generally: try and make the first step assertively, but not aggressively.
To explain the difference – when you approach someone for a kiss the first body motion of pulling the person close to you needs to be passionate and assertive. Then, to avoid being aggressive just pause for a couple of seconds before actually kissing that person. These couple of seconds are the unspoken form of obtaining consent. The person that doesn’t want to be kissed will either shift their head a little or completely remove themselves from the situation. I don’t need to explain how important consent is with everything that has been happening lately and the extensive online talk. Nonetheless, it should not in the way of passion 🙂
Nevertheless, take my advice with a pinch of salt. I do not know this particular lady, but nonetheless I am yet to meet a woman that doesn’t want a man who’s passionate for her and not afraid to show it. Hope this helps 🙂
My grandma is a full fledged Bulgarian and I am fortunate to have an uncle and cousins in Bulgaria. I have travelled throughout the country twice now and I am currently 28 years old. I’m planning to visit Bulgaria again in 99 days and although I have a long term dream to meet a Bulgarian woman, have a great marriage and family, and obtain citizenship after three years I am dumbfounded by how to accomplish this. My grandma had previously told me that if I ask my uncle than he can help.
I’ve noticed very clearly that beautiful women are everywhere and for the most part are very nice to me. As soon as I speak English I feel they find me interesting.
I have no game as far as asking women out on dates and I have a modest income although decent. For my upcoming trip should I ask all my family to arrange dates? Would the ideal situation be we have a good date and stay in contact and then a year later try for marriage?
I’m in really good shape and smart however seriously have not met many women here in the US and I’m feeling ready to take steps.
Hi Chris! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your journey. I am afraid there’s no one single way you can approach what you’re looking for. What I do know, however, is that when in search for a life partner you want to approach things cautiously. It’s not about the citizenship a woman will be able to secure you, neither about the finances you’ll be able to secure for her. It’s about finding someone who will be dedicated to you and to what you guys are trying to build together as a family. My advice would simply be: don’t approach this as a deal. But do go out on dates and do try to meet women. From a personal perspective I have to say that meeting cute is still very much desired and very little possible these days. Chat up a woman in a book store/ a grocery store / random shop, or for that matter – everywhere you feel comfortable and at ease with the surroundings. And one more thing I’ve told many people: do approach your appropriate age range. Lots of men get carried away into believing that age is just a number. Well, that’s what plenty of young women think about your bank account 😉 Be smart but have your heart open and enjoy. A dedication to a woman and some chivalry can take go a long way these days 🙂
Thank you for the article even if it crushed my hopes.
I will move to Sofia next week for my job and I feel it will be impossible for me to get a Bulgarian girlfriend. I am not tall, attractive or rich enough…
Hi Fenrir. I actually re-read my article trying to figure out why you it made you think that you need to be tall, attractive, or rich. Still can’t quite figure it out… There’s someone for everyone out there and it’s all about what you bring to the relationship in terms of people skills. All the rest is far less important.
I met a lovley Bulgarian girl a while back, we got on fantastic but after only knowing her a short time I turned up at a place where she was..
I had business their but she has gone very cold since, probably thought I was a stalker . .
If it was an English girl I would leave her alone to work it out but Bulgarian girls are different…
What do I do?
Hi Phil! That’s indeed a weird situation. The only thing you can really do is try and reason, but be open about her decision. I’d say that for a girl of any nationality, really. Just let her know that it was not stalking and it was a coincidence. Most Bulgarian women will find this charming as opposed to strange, so there’s a chance something else is bothering her. Try and find out – if she won’t tell you, there’s not much you can do…
Well this string of conversations is quite interesting. I’m traveling from the states for two weeks in what I hope is an amazing trip. I have and do travel the world from Chile, Australia, Kazkhastan and Asia. I’m 54 and fit, not your ytpucL American. Soooo be my guide. I have booked a car, staying at Sunny Beach BUT wheels will travel ☺️.
Your general answers about were to go see ok BUT to meet a sophisticated and warm woman were??
That’s perhaps the most difficult questions. I might send you to the other end of Bulgaria and it may turn out that you’ll meet the lady in the grocery store around the corner. So – I won’t try to fool you. Reality is that you’ll probably meet her catching the sunrise or the sunset, as opposed to in a nightclub (although that’s not impossible either). So, the only advice I’ll give you is: keep your eyes wide open and enjoy yourself. The rest will follow 🙂
Hmmm, not all of this is true but interesting read.
Well, well, and where are the real english gentlemen? I am a bulgarian woman, 45 years old. I had had a relationship with an englishman for about 2 years. He was so arogant /for a man with monay/ and at the same time so primitive and boring: he wanted to settle in Bulgaria and to enjoy the good food, alcohol and women…
Well, I still hope to meet some intelligent man, interested in much more than all above mentioned!
And I believe, the role of a man is to keep the woman feel like a lady, not like a cheap need, just to make man’s life easier!
To Sir Jair Sweatman, I would like to say: you can always say to your girlfriend /it is not clear if she works and earns own money/ and daughter just to stop buying shoes and to invest the money in someting else. It is the way they show respekt to you!
What concerns the culture and traditions, I would say, anybody can be flexible. I lived and worked in Italy and Germany, and it was not a problem for me to accept the way they live, although they didn’t respekt me for what I am.
tell me something more about Bulgaria… i want to know much about this country… i happened to like Bulgaria once i met a guest while serving them helicopter service…MY main aim is to learn LAnguage
i liked a bulgarian girl and really want to get her, but i think the big mistake i did is future planning and marrage a year later , and she left and not agrey to chat , wgat should i do. i appreciate her for her straight forwards answers but i dont know why she didnot feel my loyalty.
Sometimes, all you can do is give some space to the other person. If she has feelings for you, she will come back. Of course, you can always just ask her directly and honestly, but be ready to take her answer and honour it even if you don’t like it.
Hi, I came here 4 years ago from Germany because my translators work in Germany over internet was not well enough paid to live there any longer. I got to know my Bulgarian wife here in Burgas in 2014 by chance,, we married in 2017 and it cannot be better. She is absolutely amazing in all aspects. Also her daughter and her parents. I was married before and I never had this much love and care from the parents of my ex-wife in Germany as I have now. It is a very unique experience and I would never want to miss this again.
Thank you for your comment, Berthold! I’m truly happy you’ve found a fulfilling life here in Bulgaria!
Hi Nina, I am meeting for the second time a girl from Bulgaria. I went 3 years ago and it was not good. Her older sister came with us and I felt like I was being scammed. I rented her a room and our room…it was really strange. We never had sex and I didn’t try. I left early after a few days because her sister was always wanting something from me. I am not a stingy person but I know when I am being taken for a ride. I don’t drink that much and I did with them so I spent or lost quite a bit of money for 3 days. I thought her sister may have stolen from me but I have no proof…just my empty wallet.
Why am I going back ? This girl stayed in contact with me for the past 3 years and would send me a note or another Skype request. Sometimes I replied to her email but never to Skype. After time, I decided to open up with her and try again. I have no idea of why she persisted. I asked and she replied ” I was in her heart.”
She never really denied that her sister was playing me but never told me I was wrong either. Her sister is not meeting with us. My thinking about Bulgarian culture has changed now because I have read more about the people and I am trying to understand her. She is really a nice person and has a good heart. SHe is not a gypsy because her sister would point out all of the gypsies and warned me to watch my wallet.
I thought her sister was going to protect her initially. So, I was Ok with her traveling with us even though it was strange and not in our original plan. A few days before I arrived she said her sister came from Belgium to visit and asked if she could go with us. At this point, I had my reservations and radar up !
I left her at her granny’s and drove her sister with me back to Sofia to the airport. We went from Sofia to the beach..I don’t remember the name. Her granny was ill and the town was called Silven and was half way between Sofia nd the coast and Desi asked if I would drop her off there and I said Ok. I expected her sister to stay with her but she wanted to go back to Belgium. I spent the night in a little hotel there.
I am traveling in Europe for 1 month and have no idea of how long I will stay with her in Bulgaria. I first asked if she wanted to meet me in Amsterdam and she said she would meet me anywhere. So, after time I decided to go see Bulgaria again. I am rambling here because I am still confused. I thought we were finished when I left….she did come to my hotel in Silven and tried to talk me into staying but I was angry and I truly thought I had been taken advantage of…maybe even stolen from. Again, I have no proof. We talked a little of the past experience but wants to move forward and I do as well. Then I see my words I am writing to you 🙂 Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Run Forest Run ???
Hi John. Your story is quite interesting although I have to admit that some of the things were confusing. Nonetheless, I’d tell you what I would tell to a friend: if your gut tells you that something ain’t right, then get out of it. My article describes most of the women in Bulgaria, but I am afraid that just as in every other country there are confused people who don’t know what they want or even if they do – they won’t share their true intentions because they believe they won’t be understood. Either way – life’s too short to deal with people like that regardless of their nationality. So yes, John: run! A woman’s job is to make you feel at ease. I hope feminists aren’t going to crucify me for this, but I do believe that biologically women are wired to make men feel comfortable and create a bubble of warmth around their chosen one. If you don’t get that feeling then there’s no point of wasting your time, right?
Interesting, my wife’s name is Nina from Plovdiv thou and we now have 2 beautiful girls and enjoying life. I wish I had known about this rules 7 years ago when I met her. Well, I had to learn the hard way but I can tell anyone who’s reading this that those rules are on the spot and apply no matter where in the world you find a Kifla. I only visited Bulgaria 3 years after we met and I loved every single day that spent there. My Kifla she’s the one for me and I’m very luck the have her. Great writing Nina!
Joey, thank you!!! Your comment made my week. Wishing you, your kifla and your kids endless happiness! Ellie and I would be more than happy to invite you for coffees if you ever have time when visiting Bulgaria (assuming that you come here every now and then).
Same ‘rules’ apply to Bulgarian women living in Western Europe?
“Muffin” kinda sounds…. horny! 😉
Hi Nina ! Good advise. But why are no serious marriage agencies in Sofia available ?? Where is the place to meet at weekends ?
Hi Curd. Thanks for stopping by. I really have no clue why there are no marriage agencies… I guess it has to do with modern people’s attitude towards life than anything else. As for where to meet: the answer is simple. Wherever you enjoy going. The thing is you actually need to have the guts to chat up the girl you’re interested it. Funny thing – I am reading “The game” by Neil Strauss at the moment and although it’s quite shallow overall, there are some good pick up lines 🙂
Thanks for your advice. Please give me some ideas in what kind of clubs ladies prefer to meet. I am in the 50 ´s and really do not know where to go after work or at night.
My bestie is a Bulgarian who is nearly 20 years my junior, but I love hanging out with her! Her parents are both so very cool and you were dead on point about them being her friends (and now mine). And YES! I was worried about her intentions when she wanted me to meet them so bad… I’m like whoa! We are just hanging out, having dinner, drinks and talking about people! (Cause sometimes, you just wanna hang out and watch people…). Now her parents ask if I’m going to be where ever she is going.
As far as the cooking goes, well I tend not to let anyone in my kitchen and she’s cool with that, but then again, we aren’t dating. She has just the right amount of foolishness and seriousness to keep up with me. That AND my 10 year old daughter LOVES going shopping with her… (The shoes! The shoes are going to be the death of me and my bank account…!)
Great article! You are a very good writer! I thought it was just her who was soo cool. Nice to know it is cultural and genuine. But I already suspected that…
Awwwww! Jair – you made my day <3 Thank you so much for your kind words and please, do send my regards to your bestie - she sounds like an awesome girl!
Nice tips you have mentioned over here.
I have already visited Bulgaria 2 times now, and i will be coming this summer for like 15 days.
I will appreciate if you can give me some hints and tips on how to meet a Bulgarian girl for a serious relationship.
Thank you in advance.
Kifla or кифла has nothing in common with muffin.
Please do feel free to offer a better translation 😉
Bulgarian muffin? Seriosly?
Yup… Seriously 🙂
What is the bulgarian word for muffin I wonder?
The Bulgarian word for that is Кифла (kifla).
The french word “croissant” is largely used in Bulgaria too.
Highly entertaining. Thank you. 🙂
My pleasure 🙂
I guess it’s a good thing I didn’t come to Bulgaria last week. Now I’ve got all the inside information for when I do come!!
Use it wisely 🙂 You know I won’t forgive you if you come without letting me know, right 😉