It was just several days before the 8th of March when he said he doesn’t celebrate women’s day.
“We should respect women every day” – he said. “Showing appreciation with flowers is a capitalistic invention and I will not be fooled into this.”
My 20-something-years-old-self thought this was a legitimate argument so I said nothing.
A couple of days later on the 8th of March I was the only capitalism-free woman who did not receive flowers. All the rest of the girls that I worked with were apparently respected solely on this specific day. And I? I had a man who appreciated me and didn’t need a special occasion to show it.
I also had a man who was painfully jealous and called me at least 10 times a day to check where I was. A man who had no problem to see me cook, clean and wax the bottom of his yacht along with him. A man who would not let me have any personal life whatsoever and would even try to dictate the way I dressed. A man who shamelessly appeared on my business meetings without any prior notice to make sure my clients were not hitting on me. Obviously, a man who loved me for who I was, right?
This was many years ago. Nowadays I occasionally receive flowers without any particular reasons and I definitely receive a bouquet on women’s day.
Nowadays I no longer communicate with people who “celebrate” occasions. Instead, I surround myself with people who honor the international holidays enough to take a while and acknowledge the fact that I AM A WOMAN.
I am not a feminist and I am not ashamed to admit it. But it is what it is and I am forced to be a man every day. I need to make decisions, work for my money, support my family, carry my bags, open my doors, etc. My father was never in a position to take financial care of me after I turned 16; I took care of him, instead, and I LOVE HIM for not allowing this to break him mentally, and make him a less caring father. I never had anyone throw his jacket into a puddle for me and quite frankly I don’t need this.
But every now and then, especially on the 8th of March, I would like to see you, men, be our knights in shining armor and going the extra mile to show women that even though we are less feminine nowadays, we’re still your flowers.
Cheers to those of you who do!