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Dating Bulgarian Girls

8 simple rules for dating Bulgarian girls

If you have an international surrounding there is a very high likelihood that one of your friends is married to a Bulgarian girl or at least has dated one. This isn’t because Bulgaria intentionally sends women to foreign countries to try and spread our genes. Although that’s not a bad idea, the actual reason is simple: Bulgarian girls are STUNNING! And I don’t mean to say that girls from other countries are not! It’s simply that we’ve got more beauty per square meter than Sahara has sand. In other words: if you are a guy coming to Bulgaria you will have a very hard time concentrating on anything else but the girls around.

So, what happens when you decide to date a Bulgarian girl? Simple? Hell, no! And just because I’m really cool I’ll give you some insights.

#1 The grey area has more than 50 shades of grey: Bulgarian “muffins”

Silicone in the lips and the breasts, make up, tight clothes, jewelery, colored hair, and a princess/prostitute behaviour. If you’re thinking of a gold digger, you are quite wrong. In Bulgaria we call them muffins (don’t ask). They may remind you of the western gold diggers but that is not exactly the case and you’d be seriously fooled if you perceive them like ones. Here are the few things you need to know about them:

  • They are shockingly smart! I’m not talking about intelligence here, so pay attention! Bulgarian “muffins” may not know all the capitals, yet they can capture you in their net by the time you say your name.
  • They’re good housewives. Unlike in the West, a home cooked meal is the king in Bulgaria and our local “muffins” can WOW you with their kitchen skills. Not to mention that most of them are nuts when it comes to cleaning. Best thing about them: they will look like Angelina Jolie on the red carpet while making sure the house shines.
  • They are sensitive and vulnerable. Yet, Bulgarian “muffins” hide behind a perfectly performed “I don’t care” attitude. They’ll let you in their lives and hearts, but God forbid you break their trust. Women can be quite revengeful.
  • You don’t want to cheat on a Bulgarian “muffin”. If you do, they’ll make your world miserable. Try and get astronaut training if that’s the plan.
  • They’re addicting. I’m a woman and I can’t really tell you why this is, but I’ve seen the aftereffect over and over again. There’s something about Bulgarian “muffins” which makes them addicting and once you get your first dose you’re hooked for life!

If you’re a guy reading this you probably expect me to tell you that they are good in bed. Well, I wouldn’t know, right 😉

#2 Promises? We’ve heard those. Got something new?

Bulgarian girls are not the usual cry babies. They have been handling life by themselves for quite a while, so unless you are as strong as they are you might be seen as a liability, not an asset. We’re talking physical and emotional strength. You need to be able to carry shopping bags with the same wise and steady attitude you’ll use to calm her after a tough day at work.

And since Bulgarian girls are quite emotional as well, you need to be prepared for some serious fighting that includes tears, shouting, insults, and God knows what more. BUT! You should remain wise and calm as much as your testosterone allows, as she will not tolerate you being rude.

In reality (and I am saying this with a heavy heart) Bulgarian women generally stand by their partners even when insulted and treated poorly. Don’t let this fool you though – she might do it for all kinds of reasons which do not include love. Feeling sorry because she realizes no one else would stand you, could easily be one of those reasons. In my personal experience empathy doesn’t last forever, so if you’re rude you will be shown the door eventually.

#3 Man up: coffee is not a date!

Yeah, it’s the 21st century and everyone is busy… Blah, blah, blah. Coffee invitation is not a date. Neither is afterwork drinks. A date is a date and you know what it is – don’t be a pussy. Man up and take the girl to a real date!

If you are taking your lady somewhere fancy (which you should do), you need to behave as if you dance salsa. In other words – your only job is to lead while making sure she shines out. If you have a show off side, make sure you cover it well.

Be aware that for the past 20 years Bulgarian men have become quite annoying trying to constantly show off. There are girls that will easily write you off if you think you’re larger than life. The “muffins” or muffin-like girls will tolerate more of that, but all the rest of my sisters will probably think you are an idiot. I suggest being moderate to the maximum of your abilities. Test your waters first and see how much of a “golden boy” she can handle.

#4 Who pays the bill when going out with Bulgarian girls?

Here’s how it works around here: if you invite a girl, you pay the bill. That simple. She might offer to add something, but if you really want to be perceived as a man, you better not accept. If you are wondering whether she might feel intimidated because of that: don’t. Emancipation doesn’t exactly have the same meaning on the Balkans as it does in most Western countries.

For a Bulgarian girl things look like this: if I pay my part of the bill, that means we’re buddies. Do you really want a one way ticket to “friends zone”?

#5 Parents are the cool gang. Friends are, however, seriously judgemental.

I’m sure you’ve said or heard the “I don’t do parents” expression at least once. Well, if you’re dating a Bulgarian girl, forget that one. Meeting her parents won’t mean you’re about to propose. It will simply mean you’re meeting two grown-ups that will most likely love you more than your own mum and dad.

If you’re meeting her friends, however, that’s big! They are usually the ones that she will only introduce a serious relationship to. So, if this is about to happen: make sure you are your best self.

#6 Future plans: do or shut up.

Bulgarians are cynical by definition and have serious issues with trust. Or trust has issues with them – it’s really hard to tell which way this relationship goes. The bottom line is that the more you talk about future plans, the less she’ll trust you.

People here are used to hearing empty words and even serious commitments sound ridiculous. If you really want to impress a lady, the furthest period in time you are “allowed” to plan for is a week ahead. When you prove that you can actually execute your ideas several times in a row you can then (and only then) talk about the future.

#7 Forget about the 3 days or any other rule you might have in your suitcase.

If you liked her and had a good time: call her the day after. Even better – make sure she falls asleep knowing you want to see her again. Don’t forget that she probably doesn’t know about the traditions in your home country and if you try to apply them you can get her really confused.

#8 Take her home.

Now don’t get all excited! What I’m saying is: take her to her place when the date is over. You might think this is old-fashioned, but in Bulgaria it is still one of the things that will impress a woman and she’ll see you differently.

Not driving? No problem: taxis are not at all expensive here. Grab one, take her to her place, and then go home. You’ll definitely be given extra credit!

Just be aware that driving after her to make sure she’s home safe (if she came with a car) is creepy on a whole new level!

Nina Alexander

Nina is the big sister. She's a marketing professional by day, traveler by heart, tech geek, bookworm, beer lover and an amateur photographer. Her motto is Friedrich Nietzsche's famous quote "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music."

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  1. Hi Nina, I am meeting for the second time a girl from Bulgaria. I went 3 years ago and it was not good. Her older sister came with us and I felt like I was being scammed. I rented her a room and our room…it was really strange. We never had sex and I didn’t try. I left early after a few days because her sister was always wanting something from me. I am not a stingy person but I know when I am being taken for a ride. I don’t drink that much and I did with them so I spent or lost quite a bit of money for 3 days. I thought her sister may have stolen from me but I have no proof…just my empty wallet.
    Why am I going back ? This girl stayed in contact with me for the past 3 years and would send me a note or another Skype request. Sometimes I replied to her email but never to Skype. After time, I decided to open up with her and try again. I have no idea of why she persisted. I asked and she replied ” I was in her heart.”
    She never really denied that her sister was playing me but never told me I was wrong either. Her sister is not meeting with us. My thinking about Bulgarian culture has changed now because I have read more about the people and I am trying to understand her. She is really a nice person and has a good heart. SHe is not a gypsy because her sister would point out all of the gypsies and warned me to watch my wallet.
    I thought her sister was going to protect her initially. So, I was Ok with her traveling with us even though it was strange and not in our original plan. A few days before I arrived she said her sister came from Belgium to visit and asked if she could go with us. At this point, I had my reservations and radar up !
    I left her at her granny’s and drove her sister with me back to Sofia to the airport. We went from Sofia to the beach..I don’t remember the name. Her granny was ill and the town was called Silven and was half way between Sofia nd the coast and Desi asked if I would drop her off there and I said Ok. I expected her sister to stay with her but she wanted to go back to Belgium. I spent the night in a little hotel there.
    I am traveling in Europe for 1 month and have no idea of how long I will stay with her in Bulgaria. I first asked if she wanted to meet me in Amsterdam and she said she would meet me anywhere. So, after time I decided to go see Bulgaria again. I am rambling here because I am still confused. I thought we were finished when I left….she did come to my hotel in Silven and tried to talk me into staying but I was angry and I truly thought I had been taken advantage of…maybe even stolen from. Again, I have no proof. We talked a little of the past experience but wants to move forward and I do as well. Then I see my words I am writing to you 🙂 Any thoughts would be appreciated.
    Run Forest Run ???

    1. Hi John. Your story is quite interesting although I have to admit that some of the things were confusing. Nonetheless, I’d tell you what I would tell to a friend: if your gut tells you that something ain’t right, then get out of it. My article describes most of the women in Bulgaria, but I am afraid that just as in every other country there are confused people who don’t know what they want or even if they do – they won’t share their true intentions because they believe they won’t be understood. Either way – life’s too short to deal with people like that regardless of their nationality. So yes, John: run! A woman’s job is to make you feel at ease. I hope feminists aren’t going to crucify me for this, but I do believe that biologically women are wired to make men feel comfortable and create a bubble of warmth around their chosen one. If you don’t get that feeling then there’s no point of wasting your time, right?

  2. Nina,

    Interesting, my wife’s name is Nina from Plovdiv thou and we now have 2 beautiful girls and enjoying life. I wish I had known about this rules 7 years ago when I met her. Well, I had to learn the hard way but I can tell anyone who’s reading this that those rules are on the spot and apply no matter where in the world you find a Kifla. I only visited Bulgaria 3 years after we met and I loved every single day that spent there. My Kifla she’s the one for me and I’m very luck the have her. Great writing Nina!

    1. Joey, thank you!!! Your comment made my week. Wishing you, your kifla and your kids endless happiness! Ellie and I would be more than happy to invite you for coffees if you ever have time when visiting Bulgaria (assuming that you come here every now and then).

  3. Same ‘rules’ apply to Bulgarian women living in Western Europe?

    “Muffin” kinda sounds…. horny! 😉

  4. Hi Nina ! Good advise. But why are no serious marriage agencies in Sofia available ?? Where is the place to meet at weekends ?
    Thanks

    1. Hi Curd. Thanks for stopping by. I really have no clue why there are no marriage agencies… I guess it has to do with modern people’s attitude towards life than anything else. As for where to meet: the answer is simple. Wherever you enjoy going. The thing is you actually need to have the guts to chat up the girl you’re interested it. Funny thing – I am reading “The game” by Neil Strauss at the moment and although it’s quite shallow overall, there are some good pick up lines 🙂

  5. My bestie is a Bulgarian who is nearly 20 years my junior, but I love hanging out with her! Her parents are both so very cool and you were dead on point about them being her friends (and now mine). And YES! I was worried about her intentions when she wanted me to meet them so bad… I’m like whoa! We are just hanging out, having dinner, drinks and talking about people! (Cause sometimes, you just wanna hang out and watch people…). Now her parents ask if I’m going to be where ever she is going.
    As far as the cooking goes, well I tend not to let anyone in my kitchen and she’s cool with that, but then again, we aren’t dating. She has just the right amount of foolishness and seriousness to keep up with me. That AND my 10 year old daughter LOVES going shopping with her… (The shoes! The shoes are going to be the death of me and my bank account…!)

    Great article! You are a very good writer! I thought it was just her who was soo cool. Nice to know it is cultural and genuine. But I already suspected that…

  6. Hello Nina,
    Nice tips you have mentioned over here.

    I have already visited Bulgaria 2 times now, and i will be coming this summer for like 15 days.

    I will appreciate if you can give me some hints and tips on how to meet a Bulgarian girl for a serious relationship.

    Thank you in advance.

    Hadi Haddad

  7. I guess it’s a good thing I didn’t come to Bulgaria last week. Now I’ve got all the inside information for when I do come!!

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